Frequently Asked Questions

Abundant Life Mentoring is a coaching company that specializes in turning struggling marriages around. We provide tools and coaching to help couples and families create the happiness, passion, and peace that they desire in their marriage. No matter how bad your marriage is, if you want to make it work and you are willing to do the work, we can help you make it happen.

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The programs and coaching offered by Abundant Life Mentoring will give you the understanding and tools that you need to solve any problem and turn around any marriage, no matter how bad it is. With that said, the process of transforming a marriage takes real effort. Some couples and individuals may get very quick results while others, depending on their situation, may make slower progress. The speed and effectiveness of our programs are completely dependent on your specific situation and your willingness to apply the principles and techniques that we teach.

We are not a fix-it-quick program that requires little or no effort. We are a fix-it-right program that requires commitment, effort, and personal responsibility.

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Over the years, we have found that over 80% of people who reach out to us for help are married individuals who desperately want to work on their marriage but whose spouse is “checked out” or isn’t interested. Sometimes it’s the wife and sometimes it’s the husband. Most of those individuals think that their marriage is lost because, “How am I supposed to save my marriage if he/she won’t work on it with me?”

In our experience, a single dedicated individual can have a MASSIVE positive impact on his/her marriage. There are no guarantees in this business, but most of these people who go it alone at first report significant improvements in their marriage in a short amount of time. Additionally, the majority of those “checked out” spouses end up checking back in and even start working the program with them.

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Most of the programs are a one-time payment with the exception of the large group coaching.

Foundation: One-time payment of $150.

Marriage Mastery: One-time payment of $500 (Foundation is included with the Marriage Mastery course)

Large Group Coaching: *Automatic monthly payment of $100*. Because most people choose to do large group coaching for multiple months, the default setting when you sign up for large group coaching is an automatic recurring monthly payment of $100. If you would like to cancel your subscription to large group coaching you will have to cancel manually.

Small Group Coaching: One-time payment of $1500 for 10 sessions.

One-on-one Personal Coaching: One-time payment of $5000 for 10 session.

We want to make sure that every person in our programs gets the transformation they are looking for. We also know that the results that people get are dependent on their willingness to commit to the program and do the work. We have found that offering refunds erodes peoples commitment level. Therefore, we have a strict no-refund policy after the program has started. If you have any further questions about our policy, we invite you to reach out to us via the “Contact Us” link at the top of the page.

When teaching marriage principles, we like to teach the psychology, neurology, physiology, physics, and spirituality around how to build a happy and successful marriage. Most people, whether they are religious or not, appreciate understanding their relationship from a variety of perspectives; it gives them a more complete understanding of what is happening and how to change it for the better. So no, you do not have to be religious to benefit from these courses or coaching. We have successfully coached many couples from a variety of belief and cultural backgrounds, including those that are not religious or don’t believe in God. With that said, Greg is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and therefore his perspective on marriage is influenced by his Christian beliefs. Only you can decide if that will be a problem for you.

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The “Foundation” course is ALM’s entry-level course and is a prerequisite for any of our coaching programs. This course teaches the foundational principles that create happy and successful marriages. Once you understand these principles, you can use them to solve pretty much any marriage problem.

The course is comprised of video and audio trainings and assignments. The information in this course can be life changing, but only if it’s applied. The assignments are meant to help you apply the principles.

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The “Marriage Mastery” course is ALM’s premium 8-week, step-by-step marriage course designed to rebuild your marriage from the ground up. We go more in-depth than the “Foundation” course in both the information and application. The first half of the program is focused on becoming healthy and happy individually. This is a critical step if you want long-term marriage happiness and is one area where many other marriage courses fall short. The second half of the program is about bringing two healthy individuals together and becoming unified, creating deeper levels of emotional and physical intimacy, and building an incredible future together where you support and lift each other.

The course is made up of weekly video and audio trainings and homework assignments. Most people will make incredible personal and marriage breakthroughs with the information and assignments from this program but will, at times, need some additional help from a coach to overcome some of the bigger challenges. Therefore, we recommend (but do not require) that you purchase coaching in addition to this program.

*The Foundation course is included when you purchase the Marriage Mastery course.

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Because your marriage is the most important relationship you have in this life and it impacts all other aspects of life, we expect you to make your marriage a priority and come ready to work. With that said, we know that life is busy so we have done our best to leave out the fluff and only give you the most important and effective information and techniques so that it doesn’t take up too much of your time.

If you are in the “Foundation” program, your time commitment each week will vary. This program is designed to be taken at your own pace. We encourage you to set a schedule for yourself for how quickly you would like to work through the program and then stick with it. People who stick to a schedule will make more progress than those who do not. One proposed schedule could be to watch or listen to one training per week and do the corresponding assignments. At this pace, plan on about 2-3 hours per week including the training.

If you are in the “Marriage Mastery” program, plan on an average of about 3-5 hours per week for 8 weeks. This course is designed to be done over an 8-week period and is most effective when it is combined with one of the coaching options, but it can be done on your own schedule and without coaching. We encourage our clients to stick as closely to the 8-week schedule as possible. It is much easier to gain momentum and maintain it than to stop and try to start back up again. Weekly coaching is one of the best ways to maintain the momentum.

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We want your progress toward a better marriage to be as quick and efficient as possible. Understanding the principles taught in the “Foundation” course will make your experience in our coaching programs much more enjoyable and effective. It will give you and our team a common “foundation” upon which we can build.

Our goal is to help people gain the understanding and master the skills they need for a happy marriage as quickly as possible. We are happy to help people as long as they need it, but ultimately we want to help create marriages that are strong and happy and are not dependent on paid coaching.

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We have a few great coaching options and determining which option is best for you will depend mostly on your circumstances. *Please note that the Foundation Course is a prerequisite for any coaching programs.

Large Group Coaching ($100/mo) – Large group coaching is a great option if you want great coaching but you are on a budget. At $100/month, it is about $25 per session which is less than 20% of the average cost of marriage counseling. It is also a great option if you have already done the more expensive coaching programs and you no longer need the more personalized attention but you don’t want to lose momentum and you still want support. People who want to improve their marriage and personal life but are not on the verge of divorce would usually fall into this category.

Small Group Coaching ($1500/10 weeks)- Small group coaching is probably the best option if divorce is part of your marriage conversations. The small group allows for more personalized help and a better support structure from the group. We do these coaching sessions on Zoom (web conferencing app) so that we can see each other, celebrate each others’ successes, support each other during challenging times, and really dive deep into the root of the marriage problems. Those that choose small group coaching will also have access to the large group coaching at no extra charge. There is a limit of 10 couples per group.

One-on-one Coaching with Greg ($5000 /10 1-hour sessions)- One-on-one coaching is for people who want more personal coaching or are dealing with some challenges that are particularly sensitive and that they prefer stays anonymous. It is not therapy. We will spend a little time understanding the root causes of your marriage and personal problems, but the majority of the focus will be on implementing the necessary action steps to overcome your problems and get to your marriage goals. Limited availability. Reach out to us via the “Contact Us” tab at the top of the page if you are interested or want more information.

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There are some very good reasons why we choose to do mostly group coaching instead of one-on-one. The most important reason is that it helps you get better results.

We have found that people are more successful at changing their lives when they have a good support system and a cheerleading squad behind them. That’s where the group comes in. When a couple who has a struggling marriage hears that multiple other couples in the group are dealing with the same problems, there is an immediate sense of relief, the shame goes away, and we can start focusing on solutions. When a struggling couple or individual sees the system working for other couples, it’s inspiring and motivating. When a couple or individual is discouraged, the group can help encourage and lift them up. As good as one-on-one coaching can be, most clients prefer the group setting.

Other reasons for group coaching are that it allows us to help more people in a given amount of time which means we can charge less money per couple.

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The terms “coaching” and “counseling” are often used synonymously but there are some important differences between coaching and counseling and there are advantages and disadvantages to both.

ALM approaches coaching with our eyes and intentions on the future. It’s all about moving toward what we want instead of running away from what we don’t want. There are times when things from our past hold us back from getting our future goals. As these things come up, we teach the skills and techniques to deal with and heal from the past and we support you through process. Then, we continue forward until you achieve your goals.

Counseling or therapy often take a different approach, looking into the past to make sense of and heal from difficult or traumatic experiences. Counseling is sometimes best when a person needs more personalized help to deal with difficult situations.

Coaching can be done very effectively in a group setting, while therapy is usually more effective in a one-on-on setting.

It is our experience that most people respond very well to coaching even (or especially) when counseling hasn’t helped or has made things worse.

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